Saying No

It’s Self Love Saturday and today is about saying No. Saying no to anything that we don’t feel like doing or aren’t comfortable with. Have you paid attention to things you do? Part of self love is to recognize things we do half heartedly or without feeling 100% good about it. Ask yourself about what those things are. Make a list of things you do forcibly because you haven’t created healthy boundaries for yourself. Then next time you have to do one of those things, politely and lovingly say no if you don’t feel like doing it. It could be anything - waking up early, staying up late, cooking, cleaning, eating, going out, talking to someone / picking up a phone call, spending money, spending time, doing work you don’t like, keeping relationships that aren’t for your best and highest good, … the list is endless of things we do just because we feel obligated. A lot of that conditioning is self developed and needs to be changed for self love. Remember, you have an obligation to yourself too. Start putting yourself above everyone else. I don’t mean that we don’t value others or don’t do things for others, but if we tend to our needs first, we can support others in theirs better. It’s very hard to put ourselves above others, but very important and essential for our well being and for self love. Start saying no and see how amazing and empowering it is. If you aren’t used to saying no, it might be intimidating initially, but know that only you have the ability and courage to do that for yourself and sooner or later you will do it so the sooner you start, the better it is. Others can’t help you. You have to help yourself. Also, the more you do it, the easier it gets just like everything else. Practice makes it perfect. So start saying no for anything you don’t have bandwidth for or don’t feel like doing and see how things improve in your life. Here’s to saying No more often and whenever we feel like it. I just said no to eating Vietnamese food because I feel like having Mexican today. So what is the latest thing you said No for?

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